Saturday, January 19, 2013

What's going on?

I will tell you what's going on.

I am "out" at work.

My boss told my co workers about my transitioning this week.

And I am OK with that. It needs to happen in order to complete my Real Life Experience.  So far, the reaction has been.....well, minimal. Of course, it is only the first week. They are still thinking about it and absorbing it. As time goes on, who knows what will happen. But because the BOSS told them, it shows his support of me and will keep the bullshit down. They are not calling me Dustin yet. And that is OK. It will happen. I want to let the whole thing sink in for now. So maybe in a month or so I will start asking to be called by my chosen name. I think that is fair.

Also, someone passed on a link to my blog to the powers that be. Just let me say, HI!! Thank you for reading! If you have any questions, you know where to find me and I will be more then happy to answer your questions. After all, this is my blog and my life. Who else is more qualified to answer then me?

I have spent sometime with my new buddy, "M" yesterday and today. He gave me some great advice on how to go about the name change. Not near as hard as I thought. Which is nice. He also gave me advice on how to change my drivers license and how to change the gender on my license.  I will have to wait until after surgery to change the gender on my birth certificate. I am very excited! Of course, once all that is done, I will have to change my name on everything. Bank accounts, credit cards, apartment, insurance. The list seems endless!  I also met another trans guy today. "J" is a friend of "M" and a little closer to my age. So his input and advice is valuable. They gave me advice on testosterone shots versus gel. The effects of testosterone on an older person. As much as it pains me to say it, I am older. I have an appointment with the doctor they see so I won't have to explain anything to her. She can actually help answer my questions. I feel comforted by that. Oh and "J" has a beard I am so envious of! I know it will take a while to grow some facial hair but I am so looking forward to it! Thought I would start with a 5 O'clock shadow and go from there.


The more I think about it, the more I realize this is something I have to do. I was willing to settle before but now, I can't. I have to follow through. If this is the only thing I follow through in this life, then I can be proud of that. I finally have the courage to be who I was meant to be. And regardless of what others think or say, I am going to do this. I have to do this.  Almost like my life depends on it.

I happen to be watching a show on a transgender teen. Amazing. I wish I had the same opportunities at that age. She started living as a girl at the age of 6. 6! The self confidence! The strength! Her parents and siblings fully support her. So very cool.

So. The answer to what is going on is.... Life. My life. That is what is going on. And it seems to be going just fine.

Bro code article # 35

A bro never rents a chick flick.



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  2. Sorry, but I don't understand what you mean by "old." can't get my head around that one!

    Love you anyways - Rimbey

    1. I hear that at your age, the memory starts to go. :)

      I love you too

  3. What kind of work environment are you in? Male or female dominated or a good mix?
    Just curious.

    1. It is mainly males. Of all ages and backgrounds. I think it will be OK. Once they get used to the idea.

  4. Dustin
    I wish you all the happiness in the world. Xoxo

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